tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289359003002998269.post8997607578500885013..comments2022-08-24T05:54:29.755-04:00Comments on just so long and long enough: redefinition.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289359003002998269.post-38455423412250048062011-05-26T09:08:04.351-04:002011-05-26T09:08:04.351-04:00"this sense of neverending responsibility com..."this sense of neverending responsibility competing, sometimes violently, with your previous sense of independent freedom."<br /><br />Lady, I could have written that sentence myself.<br /><br />I've been keeping up with you guys all along, not having enough time to comment (toddler!) but wanting to say how great you guys have been doing. (And your birth story. Wowzer. I'm so glad you came through it okay.)<br /><br />I felt exactly the same sense of conflict you're experiencing, and here's what I can tell you about how it was for me: as Maggie gets older, things will get easier (and harder in some ways, but these newborn months? definitely the toughest because it's all so new and sometimes scary). As things get easier (for us, that point was when E was 9 months), you'll start feeling more like your old self. But at the same time, your mom self will come more into being, so you end up with a hybrid, really. It takes a good but of time. But your momness and your "selfness" will merge at some point, and you'll feel both like your old self and a wonderful new self.<br /><br />It took me at least 18 months to get to that "merge point," but everybody's different. Hurray! :)<br /><br />It's okay to feel the conflict. It doesn't make you a bad person or a bad mom, or a person who doesn't appreciate the little one enough (not that you were worried, but I was, so I figured I'd say it).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com