tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289359003002998269.post6989465326728489849..comments2022-08-24T05:54:29.755-04:00Comments on just so long and long enough: yokes.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289359003002998269.post-41469890554248305842010-04-22T10:42:46.241-04:002010-04-22T10:42:46.241-04:00As someone who is in a marriage of differing belie...As someone who is in a marriage of differing belief systems, I can tell you that...yeah. It's a daily challenge. It affects other parts of your relationship. <br /><br />It was an incredibly difficult decision to make, marrying someone who does not, in the least, share my same religious understanding (I won't say belief, because it's not a belief. it's a deep sense of knowledge and understanding); it was a decision that I did not make lightly. It took me 3 years of soul-searching and a whole lot of discussion about things like raising children before I made my choice. They'll be raised in my church. We were married in a Christian ceremony, despite the fact that his family is Jewish (he is agnostic, unsure of what's out there and wants scientific proof before making a decision). Religion is a part of our relationship, no matter what.<br /><br />To use your shoe metaphor in a different way--I guess the way I look at it is this: I'm willing to wear shoes that might make me a little uncomfortable--might even give me blisters. Blisters turn to calluses and calluses are what make your feet better able to handle wearing the shoes in the first place. There are some ways that this difference makes us a better couple. Because we talked so many things out, we're better at communicating with each other. It doesn't mean we don't have bad days, but it means that our bad days are less likely to turn into bad times. That's true for any relationship with good communication.<br /><br />I guess the moral of the story is: yes, it's hard. It makes a relationship much more difficult, but if you love someone the way that I love my husband, it's something that you have to work on and work through. I pray for him every day. I bring him to church as often as I can and I hope that one day he'll understand what it is that I understand. Until then, he'll keep on being the love of my life and the man I want to spend the rest of my days with.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00832247265639108018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6289359003002998269.post-48102853333953862442010-04-21T23:22:22.124-04:002010-04-21T23:22:22.124-04:00So Chris only joined the church because he knew it...So Chris only joined the church because he knew it would make me happy and that makes things a little rocky at times, but he always helps me get Parker ready on Sunday mornings, understands my mad dash to make hand outs for Beehives on Saturday night, and writes a check for fast offerings when the boys show up at our door. <br /><br />While it is difficult, not having that same background, he is supportive and that makes is a little easier at times. <br /><br />Should I have waited? Maybe. But no regrets. We have a beautiful family and someday we'll get to that forever part. For now we just try to get through the day-to-day stuff that goes along with the married and in the military life. <br /><br />I think sometimes that people probably look at us and think the same thing you do about your other couple friends. :) Because I definitely look at other couples and wish we were more like them. But then I look at other couples and am so, so grateful that we are who we are.emilysuzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01236106645679996405noreply@blogger.com